Stop video buffering.

Hi, how can I stop videos from buffering when I navigate to its page? I would rather have it do nothing at all and only start buffering when play is pressed, any ideas on how I could do that? So far the closest I could find in the way of parameters is <PARAM NAME=AutoStart VALUE=FALSE> but that still buffers the video anyway, it just doesn't play now when the file has finished buffering all the way. Even if I had to use a javascript soultion that would be great, any input would be appreciated, thanks.
Rachelle